Our capacity to develop and function as members of a society is hinged on three items of our beliefs;
1. What one believes,
this is the true personality.
The individual who surfaces behind closed doors(in private).
The less it is suppressed the freer, happier and more competent the individual.
2. What one purports to believe,
the behavioural traits that one adopts to blend in a society even when they don't believe in it.
The more one can act them out, the more acceptable, the more successful but less happy.
3. and what one wishs they believed.
The ideas that one wishes they had so they fair better in society.
The more one wishes for and strives towards those beliefs, the more superficial, sophisticated, more competent but less sociable in society.